May 22nd is National Moth Day.
And I know what you're thinking: "Why are we celebrating moths?"
They're not impressive.
They're not powerful.
They're not what anyone aspires to be.
They're just small creatures drawn to light.
Bumping into things.
Persistent.
Determined.
Attracted to the light no matter how many times they fail to reach it.
Why That Matters
There's something about a moth that gets it right.
It doesn't see darkness and surrender.
It sees light—even from very far away—and it goes toward it.
It doesn't ask if the light is reachable.
It doesn't calculate the odds.
It just moves.
Persistently.
Despite obstacles.
Despite the danger.
Despite the fact that it might never actually reach that light.
It goes anyway.
The Attorney as Moth
You know what a family law attorney is?
You're a moth.
Your clients come to you in darkness.
Completely lost.
Broken.
Exhausted.
Unable to see a way forward.
Unable to imagine what light looks like on the other side of this.
And you—you're drawn to that darkness specifically because you can see the light they can't.
You can see the path forward.
You can see the life that's possible once they get through this.
You can see the light.
And you move toward it.
Persistently.
Despite the obstacles.
Despite knowing how hard this is going to be.
Despite understanding that some clients won't make it.
You keep moving toward the light anyway.
Because that's what moths do.
The Kind of Attorney You Actually Are
But here's the thing: not all attorneys are moths.
Some of them are just processing cases.
Moving files.
Handling transactions.
Treating divorce like paperwork.
They're not drawn to the light.
They're not persistent about helping their clients find their way.
They're just doing the work.
But the ones who are moths—the ones who are genuinely drawn to the light even in the darkest situations—those are the ones building something real.
Those are the ones whose clients remember them.
Those are the ones who actually change lives.
You can feel the difference the moment a client walks in.
Are they talking to an attorney who's just processing their case?
Or are they talking to someone who's drawn to help them find the light?
What the Best Attorneys Understand
The best family law attorneys aren't the most aggressive.
They're not the most clever.
They're the ones who are genuinely, deeply motivated to help their clients find their way through the darkness.
They're the ones who see the light—the possibility of a better life, a stable future, kids who aren't traumatized, a path forward—and they're drawn to it so strongly that they'll do whatever it takes to help their clients reach it.
They're moths.
And they're unstoppable.
What You Can Do Today
Ask yourself: Am I a moth or am I just processing cases?
Am I genuinely drawn to help this client find the light?
Or am I just going through the motions?
If you're just going through the motions—if you've stopped being drawn to the light—then you need to stop.
Not your practice necessarily.
But your approach.
Because your clients can feel when you've given up on the light.
They can feel when you're just handling their case instead of helping them find their way.
But if you're still a moth—if you're still drawn to the possibility of light even in the darkest situations—then lean into that.
Because that's what actually matters.
That's what changes lives.
That's what makes family law work worth doing.
Bottom line: National Moth Day celebrates persistence and attraction to light.
That's the family law attorney.
Not the flashy one.
Not the aggressive one.
The one who's drawn to light.
Who keeps moving forward.
Who helps clients find their way through the darkness even when it seems impossible.
The one who's a moth.
If you're still that attorney—still drawn to the light despite everything—then keep going.
Your clients need you.
The darkness needs someone who can see the light.
And that's you.